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Au travail

I had hoped by the end of the day to be mostly clear on what will happen on Monday, but I have still a ways to go and fell asleep in the middle of the day. There is always Sunday I keep telling myself.

In the meantime I have taken care of some other important things. I have a local phone number now from the Move company. When one stops anywhere along the road boys with packets of any of the major cellphone companies stream like flies to your car, as if the window was covered with honey. Compared to the lengthy control process in countries such as India, Bangladesh, South Africa, where obtaining a simcard requires a trip to a store, a passport, a letter from the hotel and many forms to fill in, here it is a transaction that takes seconds. If it takes any time at all it is because of the negotiation about the cost (in the control countries the cost is neglible, a nominal fee, like 1 Rand in South Africa).

Next stop was the pharmacy. Although I knew that malaria is a big problem here, I hadn’t put one and one together and procured myself some malaria prophylactics back at home. Now, staying in an hotel on a lake and observing the mosquitoes in my room, I realized I’d better get some medicine. My co-facilitator is a doctor and he got me the medicine (WHO prescribed he told me, 200mg artesunate and 250 mg mefloquine, 3 days in a row), good for curing me and also protecting me, even as long as 6 months into the future. Oof!

And then the bank. Luckily I had some money left over from my trip to Cote d’Ivoire, which is the same currency they use here. Going to ATMs is always a bit of a crap shoot, you never know which card will work at which bank. It took only 2 tries and now I am good for local meals and more call minutes.

After several failed attempts to get into the office to see what was prepared for Monday we gave up. In between attempts we took a break at lunch time. My co-facilitator took me to a restaurant that was clean – me remaining in good health is critical to him (and to me for that matter). And so we had lunch at Mama Benin who announced on handwritten panels on every corner of her restaurant, in two languages, that food, once ordered could not be taken back to the kitchen or altered for reasons of hygiene (“thanks for your undestanding”).

A long counter with several pans sitting side by side replaced a written menu. The waiter explained patiently what was what: fish cooked in a variety of ways: smoked, stewed, grilled, cut up, whole (we are both on a lake and at the ocean), rabbit, poulet bicyclette (sinewy skinny chicken with long bicycle legs), gizzards on a stick, mutton, leafy sauces, red sauces, rice, manioc, fries or couscous. I asked whether any of the dishes were ‘piquant.’ ‘No,’ the cooks told me, ‘food here is not piquant.’ This, I discovered later, was not true.

I ordered a salad of quail eggs, a regular sized egg decorated with finely chopped greens, the most delicious avocados and lots of onions and tomatoes as a starter and then the leafy greens with a grilled piece of fromage (paneer) and grilled fish with too many tiny little bones. We ordered baobab juice to wash the fish bones down. According to the label it was full of the whole vitamin alphabet.

And now I am waiting for my colleague who is somewhere in the ‘interior’ of Benin to call me back, waiting for something that looks like an agenda and figuring out who is going to do what when the events start. From Monday on these ‘events’ will continue non-stop, with a brief weekend pause, until I leave on the 25th.

In the air

I took the late flight out of Boston to CDG. This meant I had the entire day to pack, participate in a few phone conferences, clear the urgencies from my to-do list, get a haircut, buy some facilitation supplies and set the table outside for our goodbye dinner ‘sur l’herbe.’ Axel enhanced the festivities by catching three sizeable lobsters of which I ate two, washed away with more than a half bottle of cool Prosecco; I figured it would help me sleep (which it did).

I am flying on an Air France ticket rather than the usual Delta ticket. I don’t know how that happened, didn’t think we are allowed to, questioned it and then accepted it – what else can you do when the passport and the ticket show up about half a day before departure time?

Flying Air France was both good and bad. Good because the plane left from Terminal E where there is a restaurant which we used to frequent in the Northwest Orient days. Bad because I nearly got victimized by two airlines dueling for my loyalty, and worse because the seats on the Air France, when you are not belonging to the elite, are made for skinny teenagers. The patent lawyer sitting next to me apologized for his broad shoulders which meant he got to have the armrest; I tried to flatten against the window and then fell asleep. And now I am in the sunny banlieux of Paris.

Non steady state

While the Bulger drama in court hangs out the Irish mafia’s dirty linens, and that of civil servants paid to protect us from them, and a kitchen store on route 1 promises a free bathing suit (on the way in) or a free sprinkler (on the way home) with the purchase of a kitchen, I am trying to stay sane in the face of constant schedule changes. The good thing is that the heat spell seems to have passed. We can breathe again.

The trip to Egypt is probably cancelled by now (rather than postponed as I was told before). If it was a coup US law says we have to suspend aid to Egypt – smart minds are debating whether it was a coup or not, in our steamy capital. The Pakistani embassy is holding on to my passport, for 7 weeks already. That trip, scheduled to have started last Friday, is now postponed until next month when I will surely have my passport back with the coveted visa; unless of course something happens in Pakistan that will derail those plans as well. I wouldn’t be too surprised.

With my July schedule suddenly cleared and wide open, an SOS came in from Benin to help out with a leadership program that my local colleagues are not familiar with. Axel put passport, yellow vaccination card and photos into a Fedex that was swiftly expedited to the visa service but then it was the Fourth of July and everything came to a screeching halt in DC. Even a two day emergency visa, for a stiff fee, couldn’t get me the visa by the requested departure date, which is today. I am still here and the visa not in sight yet. A ticket has been bought, by optimistic souls, for a Thursday departure.

This will get me to Cotonou at the end of the week that was supposed to be dedicated to preparation and coaching. I will slide straight into events that are planned in ways that will require a lot of ingenuity to produce the desired effect. And so, there is never a dull moment.

Stillness after the storm

Calm has returned. I am by myself. Axel has his weekly ‘lads’ get together, sort of a men’s group that occasionally allows women – when they drop their men off or some festivity, like a harvest moon or an abundant mussel and oyster harvest. I am glad he has this – men are not naturally good at deep friendships in that phase of their lives when their women do – because of children and juggling professional and domestic careers. Now appears to be the time to catch up.

I have a thousand things to write about, because for the first time in a week there is this stillness around the house. It’s a precious stillness that returned after Tessa’s 30 hour party where some 50 (60? 100?) young people invade Lobster Cove for a 30 hour birthday bash, Tessa’s 28th.

Everything was taken over by food, drink, tents, ashtrays (this generation smokes like there is no tomorrow), and the headphones that come along with the silent disco. This year I never made it the start of the silent disco. I retreated into the only room that was invasion-proof, our bedroom.

I think I was asleep before 9 only to be woken up by the fireworks. In hindsight we didn’t think mixing vodka and fireworks was such a good idea, nor did one of our neighbors think so. This may be on constraint we may put on next years’ festivities.

Unfortunately I also did not see the dozens of large (2 feet tall) paper lanterns that are propelled by a flame and drift off into the atmosphere or far out to sea. One neighbor who monitors the police scanner told us that several Manchester citizens reported seeing UFOs. He showed me the pictures he took from the roof. I would have believed in UFOs myself.

When I woke up at 6 AM on the morning after the party the last people had just gone to sleep. Some sprawled on our large Afghan pillows in my office, some in half a dozen tents perched along the perimeter of our land, some intertwined on quilts on the grass, some on sitting places in our living room not meant for sleeping, one in a hammock that wasn’t his own, leaving its owner to seek out our couch. There were two young men sleeping in regular lawn chairs, looking much like economy class travelers, awkward but too tired to mind.

And everywhere the debris of partying – paper plates and plastic utensils, half eaten food, warm watermelon, fruit mixed with ashes and limp potato chips, Hershey bars left over from the s’mores prepared over the campfire at the beach, already melted in the early morning heat; and then there were the empty kegs, the empty bottles, the empty plastic cups and other substances that are not really good for young minds.

And then, one by one, stirrings left and right, tent zippers opening, couches being evacuated. The revelers woke up (around midday and some mid afternoon), wanting coffee but too tired to drive to Dunkin Donuts to get some. So they helped themselves to bloody Mary’s instead, accompanied by stale bagels and cream cheese from small containers. Some left because they have jobs or other social obligations, other stayed until a hastily ordered pizza delivery at the end of the day, making it a 24 hour party for some of them, a 30 hour party for others. Tessa stayed one more night to put the final touches on the clean up on Monday. One year from now everything starts all over again. Our trampled lawn has a year to recover. We know it will.

Toddling in the heat

The festivities are ratcheting up. After Tessa’s birthday there is the Fourth of July, Faro’s first, that is, his first ‘aware’ Fourth. We stood on the steps of one of his grandparental homes which is conveniently located on the parade route. He didn’t seem to be disturbed by the noise of the trucks and musketeers shooting their ancient guns. He was entirely enthralled by the parade passing before him. I am glad he is still too young to get excited about the candy being thrown from floats.

We did our usual route of social calls – as the fourth in a small town is very much a social event – and returned home, blistered and exhausted from the 90s degree heat. We found Tessa and friends lounging by the water, the only sensible place to be on a hot day like that.

The lobster traps were hailed in with only two lobsters, one under measure who was returned to the sea and the other a cull (a one-clawed lobster). Young Graeme who did the heavy lifting was given the cull for a lobster bisque his mom was making. He lives in an ambassadorial residence in Delhi, far from the ocean. The catch made his day.

Friday was a full workday for me, while there was much toddling and visiting going on outside: friends, cousins, in-laws, aunts and uncles – being at the best possible place one could be on another 90 degree day. Halfway through the day we went to the appliance store and bought another, our third, air-conditioner. It is funny how we lived through two Hivernages in Senegal and at least 15 years in Lobster Cove using only fans. It is either getting hotter every year or our ability to withstand heat is going down. I am very thankful that we can simply go to the store and buy these things. That is what workdays are for.

Faro toddled around in a T-shirt that showed the face of (now past) President Abdou Diouf from Senegal (Fidelite et Reconnaissance). In the Senegalese summer, surely hotter than 90 degrees, of 1981, Sita had worn the same T-shirt during a trip to the Casamance. She was 9 months at the time. We tried to re-create the stance, with some degree of success: mother and son – some 30 years apart.

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Celebrations

This is Tessa’s week. She turned 28 yesterday which we celebrated with the family – Faro was being watched by two of his many grandparents at our house, allowing Sita and Jim to join us. A friend had flown in all the way from LA for the occasion and for her first taste of the East Coast. After unpacking a bag of presents, mostly kitchen and cocktail making stuff, we walked to a local restaurant and had a feast of a dinner at 224 Boston Street. Tessa had reserved us seats on the patio surrounded by trumpet vines and other lush summer greenery.

The lobster traps went in yesterday, with the help of friends. It is now one year after Axel’s rotator cuff operation and we realize that hauling in lobster traps may not be advised quite yet. The same friends who put the traps in will come back on Thursday to hail them up – we keep our fingers crossed for an abundant harvest. They would be the first lobsters of the year. We have a grocery back up plan, just in case the lobsters were grazing elsewhere.

Faro is with us the whole week but so far I haven’t seen much of him. On Monday we drove into town for a potluck to say goodbye to a dear friend and longtime colleague who is moving west. We overlapped for more than a year in Afghanistan which makes for many good stories. Yesterday I left before anyone woke up and came home long after Faro’s (and my) bedtime and today I left again at daybreak. I hope we can play tonight and have some hours together. It is the first time I see him walking. The joy on his face, when he realizes that he can now reach more kitchen drawers with interesting stuff in them, is priceless.

He is learning about ‘No, you can’t have that!’ and things being taken away. His forehead wrinkles into a V and he doesn’t like it. It is still charming and quite cute to watch him express these new emotions but I know it won’t be charming for long. Luckily, he is mostly smiles.

He is having his first sea experience. Sita took him into the water, wearing his tiny crocs. He now has a life preserver as well so he can go into the boat. No swimming quite yet, but the beach is endlessly fascinating with lots of stuff to explore, still mostly with his mouth. Sita is learning to be a mom on the beach. It is a lot of work, the sun screen, the watchful eye – but seeing him explore this new world makes it all worth it; I can’t wait to be part of that. And then there is the small town 4th of July parade and the fireworks, he has no idea what’s coming.


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