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30 years

Thirty years ago a literary society was founded (some claim it was merely a drinking society) by people who had been my colleagues only a few months earlier, before Axel, Sita and I left New York for Massachusetts.

The society was named after a writer who didn’t quite make it into the world’s collective consciousness but got her book jacket up on the wall at one of New York City’s surviving speakeasies. Alas, the speakeasy, stuck in some real estate transaction limbo, may not survive but the society that was founded in 1983 is still going strong, with deep friendships at its base.

Over the years the membership has expanded and we count about 14 or so at each annual meeting. Food, wine and readings are part of our ritual, pairing the latter two a particular skill that some of us possess. In between tapas and the paella, Axel expertly chaired the raucous group through the agenda of our 30th Annual General Meeting, AGM. About half of the time was spent on determining the locus of our 31st AGM, with Manchester, Cape Cod, Maine and Southern France as candidates. The decision will be left to a committee which is not as strict as the committee that determines the next Olympics, but we have sites for about the next 7 years out.

Earlier in the day we walked, as one does in NYC, for miles along the spectacular Brooklyn Harborwalk and the High Line, a New York Style canopy walk along the old railroad tracks along the west side. It was good I had brought my orthopedic boot (now christened my booda) along which allowed me to participate in the entire length without pain. I now realize that I do have a third option for the ankle again that doesn’t require surgery: my booda. We shall see next week, after my fourth second opinion, what final decision emerges.

And now it is bagel time, warm, fresh bagels, good coffee, the New York Times and good company, all immersed in this Sunday morning NY ritual.

Out of the woods

The classes are over. Axel has to show something for it: two etched plates, one with an oak leaf and one with clouds, plus several passes of prints. I have nothing to show for my classes (I forgot to pick up my certificate) except 7 pages of scribbles, some new brain circuitry not visible to the naked eye and two business cards of women I may want to see again, one a judge in western Massachusetts and the other in charge of learning and OD at the Board of Governors of the FRB.

We kayaked twice, I biked every day, we had fish every day, and we slept so-so every night, had rain three of the 6 nights and one and a half days out of our six and a half days of camping. I think it may not have been the last time. Next year I may want to take an art class too.

We broke camp on Friday morning before the rain and before classes, leaving the big tarp up to keep the rest of our belongings dry. At 2:30 we had packed every remaining piece of gear and equipment and were on the road to New York City.

At 3:15 PM we were off the Cape, over the Sagamore Bridge. At 4:30 we were at the Bourne Bridge, a mere 2.8 miles from the Sagamore Bridge. We had wanted to be in NYC for a 8:30 dinner but our GPS indicated that now we’d arrive at 9:30. The trip that should have taken about five and a half hours took us more than 8 hours. Knowing we’d miss dinner in Brooklyn Heights we stopped at a Fusion restaurant somewhere in CT, that had advertised itself as ‘fabulous décor, good cheap food,’ with lots of positive reviews.

Naively we stopped (as naively has having taken route MA 6 West that stopped us in our tracks) and had dinner. The fruit, non-descript soup and crab legs were OK, nothing much to go wrong on, but Axel was more adventurous and came to regret it soon after we got back on the road.

We entered NYC in the rain but then all our worries were over. We even found a parking spot around the corner of our host, and all was well again. The Zugmsith Society’s 30th reunion was in full swing.

Older

Yesterday Axel celebrated his 67th birthday, all day long. It started with a breakfast on Wellfleet harbor in a breakfast restaurant that had just been opened. The mention of Axel’s birthday produced a softly murmured happy birthday by a waitress who claimed she couldn’t sing (but felt compelled to anyways). This was followed by two pieces of baklava in lieu of birthday cake from the wife of the owner and chief cook. We recognized Lebanon in the offering and inquired, to discover that the owners were from Beirut. When we told them that we had met in Beirut 37 years ago, full introductions followed, we dragged up our rusty Lebanese Arabic and were instant friends.

The owner sat with us and poured out his heart and hurt about the situation of his beloved Lebanon. I listened for awhile but I have heard the stories before, about the foreigners (Hizbollah, the Palestinians) who have messed everything up, and soon I turned away, writing my own story rather than listening to his. I didn’t want to be any further infected by the victim energy that came out in torrents. Axel listened on, he is like that.

After day two of my class I biked back to our camp while Axel had a potluck lunch at his etching class in Truro, and completed pass one of the printing process. It’s a better place for him than my covert organizational processes class.

Tessa showed up in the early afternoon with her friend Steph who stood in for Steve who couldn’t extract himself from work. Steph is now Tessa’s executive assistant, doing what a primer on ‘running your own business’ told Tessa to outsource. Steph is also an aspiring novelist and screenwriter, holding several jobs simultaneously until the breakthrough which we all know will come.

We had some downtime on the beach in Wellfleet, swimming, reading and snoozing before heading out to P’town to meet up with Axel’s cousin and partner, who happened to be vacationing in a lovely place in the West end of P’town, for the closing part of the celebrations. We stumbled on a kind of block party in a vacation rental complex that used to be fish shacks built on a long and narrow pier jutting out into the harbor. It’s the kind of place where vacationers come year after year and people know each other. There were Brits, Dutch, Californians and plenty of New Yorkers, and much good food and drink. From a Dutch Canadian I learned that Faro is entitled to a Dutch passport since his mom is Dutch. I better keep up the Dutch talking.

When the party appeared to be over we walked over to P’town’s main drag for a late dinner which consisted of appetizers, salads, main meals and desserts. All were served at the same time, and eaten based on where each if us had arrived in the dinner sequence given what we had consumed during the block, or rather, pier party.

Back at the campground we realized that the sheets hanging out to air during the day had gotten a bit damp, but we are experienced campers now. What is a little dampness after Sunday’s buckets of rain? We said goodbye to Tessa and Step who returned to Dorchester and Marblehead respectively and turned into our damp sheets for our fourth night of camping on the Cape.

Dynamic seeds

Memories of my early professional training came rushing in after my first day at the Cape Cod Institute where I am attending a class on ‘covert processes in organizations,’ taught by Bob Marshak from American University. Part of the appeal of the class is the topic (overt) and part is the people who go there, the duration (only in the morning) and the phenomenal breakfast served at 10:20 AM (covert).

Two other classes are taught at the same time. During the break I mingled with two psychotherapists attending a class on therapy of children. One of them was trained some 40 years ago in a new-fangled area of research called family systems dynamics, taught by a man named Minuchkin. I did an internship at that time – mid seventies – still a psychologist in training, at a psychiatric clinic in Leiden which was experimenting with cutting edge therapies. Minuchkin was one of the people we had to study. Family systems dynamics was very new, very exciting and very American.

I remember sitting behind a one way screen with another student and a mentor, watching an intake conversation with a family that had a black sheep, a young boy, who needed to be fixed. I think it is there that my fascination with group dynamics started.

But then I married, moved to Beirut and that was the end of my family systems therapy dreams. Yet also a stepping stone to my international career that bent around to organizational systems (therapy) over the next 40 years.

Camp

Within less than 24 hours after my arrival at Logan airport we were stuck amidst 1000s of other holiday makers on their way to Cape Cod. Vacation rentals go from Saturday to Saturday which makes for much congestion on the two and one lane roads in and out of Cape Cod. We had taken the station wagon which is old. Its airco doesn’t work and it has a stick shift I can’t really work because of my ankle. Stick shifts and being stuck in traffic, on a hot day can be pretty awful. Luckily I was in the company of my best friend and we had two weeks of talking to catch up with.

At the Audubon campsite in Wellfleet we checked in 45 minutes before closing time. We picked one of the few remaining sites not paying attention to signs of water runoff and pitched our borrowed tent on a flat surface without too many pine cones and sticks.

Dinner consisted of scallops and leftovers from the Manchester fridge. Axel had to do the dishes as I claimed jetlag and retired. And then the rains started, slow pitter patter in the early morning and then buckets and buckets for a few hours. Our poor camp making skills showed instantly with water running under the tent and the tarp hung up the wrong way which made for periodic dumpings of huge amounts of water which then found its way to the lowest point of our site.

I had also slept very poorly on our thin camping mattress and decided that this may well be the last time camping. Luckily I am reading a great book and I found a small section of the picnic table that was dry enough for sinking into the book and ignoring my surroundings. Things had gone from damp to wet to soaked in a matter of hours.

Alison had invited us over for brunch in her North Truro apartment which made for a nice (and dry) diversion, good food that was cooked for us, dishes cleaned up, and of course great company. By the time we left Truro summer had returned and our wet things in the car had steamed up all windows.

We sorted out where Axel had to be for his printmaking class on Monday, bought his supplies, and the ingredients for a meal that didn’t require a stove since Axel’s ancient camping stove had stopped working when we had wanted our second cup of coffee in the morning.

Once again he did the dishes (last time, he threatened) while I retired early again, still claiming jetlag (avoiding the dishes a nice benefit). This time we had added Steve and Tessa’s camping mattresses underneath ours which made all the difference. When I woke up this morning I was well rested and the sun was out. I think I like camping again.

The road to green heaven

The trip home consisted of various etapes. First there was the ride from Porto Novo to Cotonou. Chauffeur Nestor expertly wove through four lanes of traffic on a two lane road and was a true guide as I had a million questions about what I saw. All these new looking cars coming our way? Bought on the second hand car market outside Cotonou (voitures fatiguees d’Europe). The tired cars had been cleaned up and looked new and spiffy and were on their way to Nigeria where there is no port to import such things, at least not in bordering Yoruba land.

Then there are all the gasoline people, selling gasoline from rickety wooden platforms, bought cheaply in Nigeria. The gasoline is poured in and out of Whisky bottles, Coca-Cola bottles, water cooler bottles, anything that can hold the liquid and can be carried by a person across borders where no one is paying attention. The content of the bottles varies in color: from dark brown, deep orange, to the color of pee of a well hydrated person or a not so hydrated person. There are no gas stations on this stretch as no formal market could compete with the informal. This is how things work here.

Motorbikes are everywhere. They are the primary means of transport: taxis, haulers, movers. Whole families ride on such conveniences, toddlers squeezed between adults, babies like little cabooses dangling from mom’s back. I was too slow to pull my camera to catch a fisherman with a load of enormous (6 feet) rays draped over the back of his motorcycle.

The road is only 35 kilometer long and, like on the way up, it took us one and a half hour, a very entertaining one and a half hour I might say.

After a swift check-in with the ever so friendly Beninois I learned that the Air France plane was going to make an unscheduled stop in Niamey to pick up passengers who had been stranded for 24 hours. If that sounds like fun, it wasn’t, especially not for the families with 4 or five small children and babies who had been camping in the airport for all that time, run out of diapers and food and kids that were beyond tired.

Settling everyone into our plane took much longer than expected, both getting people in seats, especially moms with babies, and baggage in the hold. My seat mate was reseated to make way first for this mom and baby pair and then that one. In the end all the moms and babies were seated elsewhere and I had an empty chair instead of a crying baby next to me.

All the fuss delayed our departure, the serving of our dinner until 3:00 AM and our arrival at CDG until 8:30 AM as opposed to the promised 5:30 AM. At the gigantic CDG complex we were parked somewhere in the countryside, halfway to Paris, after a 20 minute taxi ride and then bussed back for another 20 minutes to terminal 2E where all the holiday makers of the world seemed to be converging. Needless to say I was not in a good mood. I barely made my connection.

Axel picked me up, we had lunch on the way home – lots of greens and freshness to make up for a week of yellow and white starch. The last mile I did on my bike, recuperated from the bike repair shop where it had been readied for our Cape Cod vacation.

Back home I parked my bike at our lusciously green vegetable garden, filled myself up with raspberries, fresh snow peas, beans, and then picked dinner: fresh eggplant, fresh beets, more beans and peas, an all-fresh-vegetable dinner. I am in heaven!

Nips and comfort

I have come to enjoy the interventions of my local colleagues and co-facilitators. They have completely absorbed the methodology and the principles of our approach to leadership development and contextualize it for Benin. They are brilliant interventions, making people stop in their tracks, pausing for reflection. It is exactly what I like to see.

We finished the second day of our three day workshop, also my last, as I have a vacation on the Cape to catch, on Saturday morning.

We sat around the table with its slippery satiny table cloth and said our goodbyes while eating our afternoon snack. It was comfort food day: ‘boullie amidon’ (literally starch porridge) made from manioc. The porridge was enlivened by condensed sweet milk (I had hoped it was vanilla sauce) to give the manioc some flavor which it otherwise doesn’t have. Next to the platter with the boullie cups was a pile of sandwiches that reminded me of camp, eons ago: thick square slices of white bread, spread with butter or mayo, with one tiny circle of mystery meat in the middle. But it was to be my dinner (little did I know that the Air France dinner would not be served until 3 AM the next day). snack

I leave the team with one more day to go on their own. I have complete confidence that they finish the job on their own.

Home where the heart is

Reblogging a post from my niece, I am such a proud auntie

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Leaving Avignon in total tiredness …

I am sitting in the train, trying to catch up some sleep. But that doesn’t work. I am thinking back at this little adventure of the last weeks in Avignon. It has been absolutely amazing. Being with lovely people around me, seeing some eye-opening performances and exhibitions, summer weather, lots of good food and drinks and the reason to be here of course, performing Rausch every night for a full house.

Last night, during the final performance of the 7 shows we did in this beautiful open-air venue Court Lycee St. joseph, I was looking up and saw many stars. As cliché as this may sound, seeing these stars, I got such a rush of luckiness through my body. I mean wow I love my job. Dancing under the stars, every night sold out (750 people) and performing a piece with a wonderful group of performers/friends all over the…

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Culture-matin

This morning I was alone in the restaurant. A large flat screen TV is (always) on, mounted right across my gaze. Usually I hate eating in places that have flat screen TV mounted along the walls. On other days there have been debates with French people interrupting each other to spout their opinions in passionate debate, or Africans who probably have a French education (I saw no difference). Under those conditions it is hard to have a conversation with one’s table mates since everyone is looking at the screen.

Today there was no one to converse with and so I didn’t mind the TV. I was in for a surprise, something much better than the endless debats. I settled in for my breakfast of ‘oeufs au plat’ (cooked crisp with curled up brown edges), slices of Benin (French) bread, and prepared my cup of tea (a small bag of Lipton tea dust dipped into luke warm water, enhanced with Nido milkpowder). I could use some distraction.

First there was Rabbi Tan, who was surrounded by all sorts of symbols that I couldn’t pin to any particular religion. Seeing the name Rabbi I made some assumptions but those turned out to be wrong. Every morning, according to the waiter, Rabbi Tan reads the horoscope, hence his title of ‘horoscopiste.’ The waiter was watching attentively and told me he is a faithful listener, trying to follow Tan’s ‘conseils.’

Today’s special day was Wednesday (it is actually Thursday, so we’d have to wait a week). As for colors, toutes couleurs are OK. Special advice: don’t eat snake meat or kill spiders. The advice is of particular importance to Rams, Sagitarii and a few others I can’t remember.

Since I am a Sagitarius no snake meat for lunch today; I will have a few TUC/Laughing Cow sandwiches and finish my meal with Ivorian chocolate, extra bitter, washed away with a glass of water. Tonight’s meal will be on Air France. It’s going to be chicken or pasta I suppose, no chance of snake meat there.

Launch 2

We completed the third of my work assignments yesterday, two coaching trainings and two launching workshops. The coaching training of this week leaves in place a small group of senior ministry of health officials who are to accompany the leadership, management and governance program that was recently set in motion by our local project.

We are still in the phase of clarifying expectations, demonstrating our approach and philosophy, and connecting the skills training to real results rather than the vague promise of better leadership, management and governance. These are, after all means to an end, means that have been found wanting according to official ministry documents.

The results we hope to see from our combined efforts have to do with malaria prevention for pregnant women, vaccinations and family planning. The exact focus may still shift a bit now that we have 20 people from the rank and file join us for the ‘scanning’ workshop that will take place the next three days, to be followed over the next 7 months by three others.

When they leave on Friday they will have their marching orders to practice good leadership, good management and good governance at work and in doing so make a dent in a few very specific challenges of the ministry of health. If we all do our jobs well we will have something to show for these combined efforts 8 months hence.


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