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Fragile

Life for anyone poor, men, women and children, is fragile. As we walked through the recycling section of the Dharavi slums, where we saw only men, we followed the various steps of the plastic recycling business  (plastic gets picked apart and sorted, then pulverized, then washed, then dried and then sold). Pay rises from the first step to the last. I don’t know if there is a career path but I expect many don’t live long enough. Life expectancy is low and sanitary conditions are poor or non-existent. General working condition would not pass the OHSA test: sharp edges as plastic is separated from non plastic material, sound overload from the antiquated cutting machines, fumes, live wires dangling everywhere and sewage sludge underfoot. Protection against those hazards depends entirely on the benevolence of the owner or boss.  

As for kids, I suspect neonatal, infant and under five mortality is high. Hundreds of kids ran barefoot across playfields (rubble-strewn lots) that we’d consider a health hazard.

But women are vulnerable no matter where they were born or to whom they were born. 

One night I watched the local evening news showing crowds of angry women, fists in the air. I guessed they were protesting the slow response of the courts to a series of rapes; a most recent one even making the news on NPR the day before I left: a young vet, in her early 20s, had her moped tires punctured and was raped and then burned by four youngsters. Newspapers are full of reports of rapes and gruesome murders – often perpetrated by people close to the deceased in response to some insult or injustice (perceived or real).  This one caused a media frenzy (like the one some years ago when a young woman was gang raped on a bus), probably because she was ‘one of us,’ that is, the educated elite. This made the crime seem more serious than the 1000s of similar gruesome events that are happening daily in places where the elites never come or never heard of. 

People take justice into their own hands because they are frustrated with the courts. When judicial procedures are cumbersome or courts overloaded (or corrupt or incompetent) and trust in the legal system is low, that’s how justice is done. The four perpetrators of this latest gang rape were shot by the police before they were even indicted. And the crowds cheered.

Not knowing

I am now in the area in Mumbai (New Mumbai) where there are lots of engineers. I gather it is a desirable place to establish headquarters. I can tell from the many 4 and 5 star hotels in the neighborhood. There is less traffic, it’s more open/less crowded than in Mumbai proper. There are shopping malls for, what I imagine, the young and monied educated elites like to have close by. It’s a modern side of Mumbai. Reliance, the big company that appears to have its fingers in countless economic ventures has its corporate HQ here. I am going to have lunch there tomorrow, with my Indian team mates and one of their clients. I am being presented as one of them.

The hotel is not quite the Holiday Inn. It has fewer stars than the international business hotel chains in the area. But it will do for one night, and the price is right. It also has a spa with reasonable prices. I got talked into an immediate massage by the owner of the ‘Pink Door Spa’ who told me excitedly that she is going to start a branch in Manhattan (there are relatives to implement this ambition).

She recommended I wait with dinner (not good to be massaged on a full stomach), and  talked me into a 60 minute Lomi-Lomi massage. Lomi-Lomi would relieve my tension and bad feelings. How did she know about my bad feelings about the motor cycle tour operator I wondered, and then handed over my credit card. I got an immediate 15% off, without asking. I think Mondays maybe slow days.

I can’t tell one massage apart from another, and sometimes wonder whether the masseuses can either, as the massages all seem rather similar. Except, that is, for the one where one is bathed in at least 2 liters of oil or have a slow drip-drip of oil on one’s forehead. 

After my massage and the recommended glass of water and cup of green tea (“you will feel hungry by then!”) and not knowing the neighborhood, I opted for an in-house dinner. In a fit of ‘I earned this’ I ordered a cocktail, the only one without syrup or sugar. It was served in a skull shaped glass (or is it a dog?) with a rusty screw cap and a paper straw through a hole in the cap. It tasted like really bad medicine. I did not earn that, but by now I had spent my alcohol money.

The hotel’s main dining room’s claim to fame is fish and is named accordingly: “Something Fishy.” But there was nothing fishy about the restaurant. I had my best meal yet: two giant tandoori baked prawns and a garlic naan that did its name honor. I think I am going to be sweating garlic from all my pores for days.

When I walked into the restaurant the waiter to guest ratio was about 10 (waiters) to 2 (guest, myself included). After a while more guests came in, and more waiters too. I settled into a warm corner in the over-cooled dining room. From my corner perch I had a good view of the comings and goings of waiters and staff. 

Decades ago, with an MSH colleague, since deceased, we played a game in a restaurant in Lesotho: spinning yarns about the other guests. We giggled until we were red in the face. I had so much fun spinning these yarns, partially because I was taught to never to judge people on their appearance – which is of course what we did, unapologetically. It felt rather naughty and irreverent.  Although it is more fun to do this with someone else it’s still a great pastime when dining alone. On my right was a dour looking German or Swiss guy (an engineer no doubt) who washed down his meal with only one beer (Swiss then?), hardly ever looking up from his smart phone. No desert. Then entered a group of 4 middle-aged paunchy Indians and one young Anglo-Saxon. Everyone drank whisky on ice, except the young man who drank German beer; once I heard him speak I settled on the Saxon part – a German engineer, just out of school (although when he smiled he looked older, maybe 35). 

I made him to be on his first trip to India, and watched how he related to his Indian table mates. At first, he was quiet but after two beers he was gesticulating wildly with his hands. I imagined he was telling what the Indian engineers needed to do to solve a sticky engineering problem. The Indians watched him politely, smiled now and then and stirred the ice cubes in their whiskeys. They were going to pay the bill, and they were here forever (unless they were going to emigrate to the US).

Watching the imagined drama being played out at this table reminded me of one of my many sins – talking too much about what I (thought I) knew to be true.  I did not always read the signs of polite listening very well. I know a bit more now (I’d like to think). Although I will be presented as a wise expert coming from far away (some of it true), I will have to walk a fine line between the wise, the expert and the novice (on India certainly) . I brought Ed Schein’s Humble Inquiry to remind me about curiosity and not knowing.

A quiet (wasted?) ‘no motoring’ day

After the long walk over uneven terrain yesterday, I returned to the hotel tired and sore. It was a good time to check out the spa and see if there was such a thing as a foot massage. There was no such thing but a ‘leg fatique remover’ seemed even better. It was as if the masseuse knew about all my joint problems and muscle tightness in my lower body, pressing in the right places, and finishing up with a bonus shoulders and neck massage. I came out feeling ‘relieved of my leg fatique’ and ready for a treat in the Saptami restaurant which served me a great breakfast in the morning. For the evening meal, I read in the elevator, loyal IHG customers would get a 25% discount. This amounted, essentially, to a free local beer and the remainder vanished after tips.

Back to my room I packed and set my alarm for (too) early so that I would be ready in case the motor cycle guide showed up at 7:30AM. It turned out I could have slept in as I learned he wouldn’t show up until 2PM. So much for an ‘full-day’ motor tour of the city.

I now had time to go for a swim in a large infinity pool on the roof. If it wasn’t for the enormous metropole surrounding us, as far as the eye could see, one would have thought to be on an exotic beach, complete with palm trees. I shared the pool with a flock of pigeons who must have adapted to sipping chlorine water as they flew to and from the pool with great vigor. They have taken up residency in a corner of the pool (not in the water) and didn’t budge when I swam towards them. This is clearly their pool but it didn’t look messy as one would expect. I assume someone must be cleaning their habitat frequently.

In the end the motor guide showed up at 3PM (still for a full-day city tour), so I canceled and had a bit of a shouting match with two rude company officials who blamed the miscommunication on me and the Holiday Inn and thus refused a refund. In return I crafted a rather unflattering review on Trip Advisor, serves them right! I was disappointed though, not only did I not have the city tour, I also wasted most of the day waiting for my guide.

I got an Uber driver who regaled me with stories about being in a call center (for Delta no less) and who may well be a more dependable tour guide when I get back, albeit it not on a motor cycle (my Indian friends did not like that idea anyways). I am now in my not so fancy but comfortable hotel in New Mumbai, close to the Reliance HQ where we will have a lunch meeting tomorrow. How well that meeting goes will determine whether I will be back here next month.

Weddings

From slum dwellers to the Mumbai elite in less than an hour. They may not be the crazy rich Asians but wealth was most visibly on display by wedding guests at my hotel. 

Whether rich or poor, it’s the wedding season. If it is anything like in Afghanistan (which I suspect it is), people will pull out all the stops, even when they have none to pull out. They will go into heavy debt to put on an impressive display, both in terms of clothing and food.

The people who celebrate their wedding at the Holiday Inn are, I presume, from the upper middle and lower upper classes. The women’s gowns are spectacular with lots of gold thread, silk in the most vibrant colors. The men are dressed in beautifully embroidered long shirts, long jackets and kaftans with headdresses that remind one of peacocks. If in Africa the women’s headdresses are most spectacular, especially in Nigeria; here it is the men that display their beauty (and wealth?) on their heads. I could just camp out in the lobby and watch the parade of beautiful people for hours.

But weddings are for everyone. Stages and festive lights strung between houses and trees can be seen (and heard) everywhere, including on streets, with drummers and dancers (stopping the already snarled traffic). From my fourth floor hotel room I can see a wedding celebration in full swing right now, just a few blocks away, with people parading onto the stage for picture taking, quite similar to the wedding rituals in Kabul. 

I was reminded of the most spectacular wedding I have ever participated in, which happened to also be in India and which I wrote about on my blog more than 8 years ago.

Tomorrow I will have to move out of this wonderful hotel as no standard rooms are available and I am not willing to pay the hefty cost of a deluxe room. I will move to a more affordable hotel in Navi (new) Mumbai where I will meet my Indian team mates for a meeting at one of their clients on Tuesday morning. But first my motor tour of the city tomorrow morning.

A different view

Where to start, with my Mumbai impressions? After a magnificent breakfast I sorted out phone arrangements and organized a taxi to the meeting place, which the taxi driver found after a few phone calls with the tour operator. “Where you see a bunch of foreigners in front of the station, that’s us.” Indeed. I was early and had a coffee and pakora at the Café Coffee Day where, indeed, some foreigners were also waiting for the tour to start: a young Swiss couple, just out of high school, on their way home from a 3 months tour of Asia, a Chinese and Basque yoga trainee (“we have to sit cross legged all day and focus on our breathing, this is our first day free!”). I detected little enthusiasm for the course, which is still to continue for a bit.  A second group emerged from the train, a Dutch couple and a man from northern India. The tour operator split us in two groups, the young people went off with one guide and I was in the ‘more mature’ group, which was nice as it included the Dutch.

Our guide, Sabina, hailed from the slum herself. She had finished her ‘guide training’ just 3 months ago. She had lots of data about the slum at her fingertips (size, occupancy, surface as well as health, legal, political and economic data). We saw the places where more than a billion dollars yearly gets made from recycling plastic, textile scraps, and soaps (yes, from the hotels!) and where breads are baked, leather processed and clay is turned into stoneware in various sizes. All the work is done in tiny holes in the wall, on roofs and in between houses when there is any ‘in between’ to spare.

We walked through the narrow (2 feet wide) alleyways known from the movie ‘Slumdog millionaire’ through which the kids run as they outwit the police. Being taller than the kids and not as good on my feet, it was a challenge to duck the live electrical wires above us and the open sewers below us, not always well covered. We learned about the legality of homes built before 1995, and then again, before 2017. Whatever is being built now is illegal. We wondered where one could possibly build more houses? Dharavi is full I’d say: 869,565 people per square mile (compare to about 26,000 in New York City), crammed into a space about two-thirds that of New York City’s Central Park.

The government has built high rises to get people out of the slum but people prefer to stay where they are. One high rise on the edge of the slum was built only 15 years ago. I guessed it was multiple of that. Public housing has a bad name just about everywhere I have seen it. Cheap materials are used for the apartments that cannot be sold on the open market. It makes one a cynic. On Thursday I am a guest lecturer at the MIT Peace University in Pune, which trains future politicians – Maybe I’ll ask the cynical question there.

Among the crowds

After the easy-peasy in and out of South Africa, entering Mumbai from the air was more challenging. It seemed that all the jumbos of the world arrived at the same time. Thousands of travelers streamed in from all corners of the world into a gigantic hall. Advertisements along the long walk from the plane to the hall indicated that India plans to be one of the three most wanted tourist destinations in the next 5 years or so. If India is serious about this, it will have to up its game on immigration. 

Half the immigration booths were unoccupied. There was massive confusion about what kind of line was for what kind of visa (electronic or not). Some people waited in one line for an hour to be told to start anew in another line. I spotted a line for ‘babe in arms/seniors’ and quickly shifted to that line, which still had me waiting for an hour, but it was faster than the line for everyone else, which moved at a snail’s pace. Next time I will ask for a wheelchair. That was the shortest line.

A gentleman in front of me (also a senior), with an American passport but from here, explained to me in broken English that in India you are a senior when you turn 60. I was well into seniordom and in the right lane.

I had met a young man while waiting to board in Boston who was also on his way to Mumbai, his hometown, for a holiday with his family. Since we left Boston late I didn’t have much time to chat with him in Amsterdam, and then found him again waiting for his luggage. He gave me some pointers on ATMs and taxis and then we parted company.

Once out into the arrival hall everyone wanted my dollars. I picked a forex counter at random and asked for the rate. This was negotiable and depended on how many dollars I wanted to change which is understandable since they take a hefty commision. I had been advised to change a little as the rates and commissions are pretty bad. In spite of the exhortations to change at least 500 dollars and get a rate fairly close to the official exchange rate, I went for the lower amount.

Next challenge was a taxi. Here too was much competition among the taxi booking kiosks. Again, I picked one at random. My taxi was tiny and rickety and the driver spoke only rudimentary English but he got me and my luggage safely to the hotel at 2:30 AM.

Mombai in the middle of the night is busy. People are populating restaurants, doing road construction, and just hang out, as if sleep is optional, at least sleep when it is dark.

I am glad I booked at the Holiday Inn because the brand is consistent and dependable. It is part of the International Hotel Group of which I have a loyalty number. It hasn’t gotten me much in terms of free nights but in Nairobi it admitted me to the club level on the top floor of the Intercon and access to a lounge that was much like an airport lounge (free drinks, free food). Here in Mumbai, once my number was entered he pushed a little flag with the company logo across the counter. It read ‘thank you for being a loyal customer.’  He also said it. After the Nairobi experience this was a little disappointing. I didn’t even get to keep the little flag on its tiny wooden pedestal.

Since I have two days here I booked two tours on Trip Advisor. One is this afternoon, a ‘Dharavi tour and street art walk.’ Dharavi is the biggest slum in Mumbai I am told by my friends in Pune. For tomorrow I booked a motorcycle tour of the city which had good reviews and will ensure that I am not stuck in traffic all the time. A report is to follow tomorrow night.

Now I have to figure out how to get to the departure point for this afternoon’s tour, which has sentences like ‘to check if you are in the right spot, verify that V-Jai Restaurant and Bakery is opposite and Cafe Coffee Day is diagonally opposite.’  I have had such an experience once, some place in this part of the world, where I walked three times following written directions, each time returning to my hotel with a question mark, and finally being accompanied by someone from the hotel. I won’t have this luxury today. Fingers crossed.

Wet to dry

I returned to Kabul with very mixed feelings. I didn’t mind leaving the intense heat and humidity of Delhi behind but I dreaded what I was returning to, wondering, along with everyone else, what the consequences might be of this latest assassination. If I left Kabul a week ago feeling rather discouraged, I am returning even more discouraged. What is so much more appealing than a peaceful life to sacrifice so much for, I wonder?

The difference between the Safi flight from Dubai and the one from Delhi to Kabul is the total absence of muscled bold or crew cut guys with sunglasses. Very few foreigners were on the flight and probably none of the usual mercenaries and security guys. The Delhi flight is full of Afghans who went to India for health or for education. In fact I knew several of them who had been to their twice a year face-to-face sessions that are required to complete their two-year MPH course in Jodpur.

The flight was full and late. Maybe I was a little too early with my praise for Safi’s punctuality; but then again Delhi airport is very crowded and putting flights in a holding pattern until there is slot for landing is apparently quite common.

In Kabul I found that the heat is about the same as in Delhi but the humidity is replaced by wind that squeezes every drop of water out of the air. Everything looked parched, the trees, the roads and even the people.

At home a bowl full of fruit, fresh milk and yogurt, an Afghan salad, a quiche and a fruit salad were waiting for me, making the homecoming to an empty house a little easier.

Swamiland

According to the brochure, which could be obtained in about 10 languages, including Dutch, the Swaminarayan Akshardham is ‘a unique complex of Indian culture […]. It beautifully showcases Indian art, wisdom, heritage and values as a tribute to Bhagwan Swaminarayan (1781-1830) a torchbearer of Indian culture.’

From what I learned about Baghwan Swaminarayan he started a movement when, as a young boy he walked out of his parents’ house. Dressed in only a loincloth he traversed India by foot from north to south and west to east, all that (including the Himalayas and the monsoon belt) without an umbrella, shoes or a warm sweater.

A friendly guide told me his philosophy would appeal to Christians, Moslems, Buddhists and Hindus alike. I also think Disney enthusiasts will like it a lot, probably more so than the others.

Part of the values is not bringing anything inside the complex. It is the one place in the world, I believe, where there are thousands of people without cellphones or cameras. Everything, including belts (huh?) had to be left in a cloak room. It was actually kind of nice though it also was a pain in the neck to carry my wallet and passport in my hand (purses not allowed either). Transparent water bottles were OK outside the buildings but not inside. A man with a sharpie numbers them so you can pick it up later again. Very clever.

I invited my driver to come along since I wouldn’t be able to call him to pick me up. We joined hundreds of pushy Indians. Before I realized it we got sucked up in a Disney-esque experience that led us from exhibit to exhibit with doors closing behind us and staying locked in front of us until the story was told. There was no escape.

The Baghwan’s life story was played out through multi-media. It’s a great story, especially on an iMax screen that showcased India’s magnificent landscapes as the young child-yogi walks from state to state. There were also dioramas populated with life size manikins that were electronically alive, and therefore looked very real, even their eyelids opened and closed. The manikins were acting out scenes of the young yogi during significant moments of his life.

I recognized some religious themes that are universal – the long walks/waits in the wilderness, the wisdom beyond years, predatory animals lying down peacefully at his feet and the boundless love for even the scariest people who then become meek as lambs.

At the end of hall 2 we were led through two large rooms that demonstrated, in case people had not gotten that message, the wickedness of the world: a family lassoing a pile of suitcases and each trying to pull the pile towards their room, presumably to show the terrible things greed and a pre-occupation with material possessions does to otherwise harmonious families.

There was a glimpse of a fighting couple in their bedroom, various men engaged in combat with a variety of weapons and one whole wall with animals wondering aloud why humans ate them: A mother duck quacking ‘why do humans eat my babies? I don’t eat theirs!” A cow reminding the humans that its milk comes free, how ungrateful to eat the animal, fish, buffaloes, chicken, all with their questions. But most people rushed through this last reminder of our depravity anxious to get on the next ride, a boat ride no less.

This one was the most Disney-esque of them all. We lined up, as one does at theme parks, and were directed into a large boat that took us on a sort of underground river where everything that India had contributed to the world was displayed in elaborate scenes peopled by more life-sized mannikins who practiced arts, science, religion, university, nuclear physics, built planes, rockets, all this thousands of years before we in the West ‘discovered’ these things.

Just before docking and our final exit we rode underneath a bridge full of life-sized and very real looking kids, waving Indian flags. A warm male voice told us that the children of the world should pick flowers and make peace with one another. I had fully expected to hear ‘It’s a small small world,’ but instead we were told that ‘Yes, we can.’ Incredible India indeed!

All the foot traffic went clockwise and in one direction only. This meant a lot of walking if you missed an entrance. There was never any turning back. I wondered whether this was part of the values that were posted everyone. Men employed by the social-spiritual NGO that runs the place, armed with whistles, would call you back if you dared to go against the rules.

And so we walked what felt like miles in the ever increasing humidity to the central building. It can seen from miles around. This is the actual holy place. The architecture is intense, modeled after some of the intricate Mughal carvings, much gold and marble, with more scenes of the Baghwan’s life.

Before the start of the sound and light fountain show, the last point on our very full program, we wolfed down a spicy dhosa bought in a building that looks like a temple or shrine but is actually a food court. The dhosa was spicy and the humidity kept climbing up so much that I was drenched when we arrived at the fountain show.

Having already seen the superior, though colorless, Burj fountains in Dubai I was spoiled. After watching a few minutes we slipped out and reclaimed our cell phones, my camera and purse before the other 1000 people would start pushing in back of me to get their stuff.

Back at the hotel I watched the news and felt instantly jerked back to Afghanistan wondering what the assassination of Karzai’s brother will mean for those staying behind. Tomorrow that will include me again.

Damp in Delhi

I arrived at the end of the morning in a very hot and humid in Delhi. Kerala seemed cool in comparison. I felt adventuresome and took the metro into town which turned out not all that adventuresome until I arrived at the railway station and was thrown into the chaos of downtown.

I remembered the warning in the guidebook about touts. A random tuktuk was going to charge me ten times the going rate for a local without luggage and five times the prepaid rate for a foreigner with luggage. I was able to wriggle loose.

The hotel is nice if you don’t mind not having a window. The manager explained that windows let in heat and noise and one is better off without them in this part of town and this time of the year. I suppose if you only need the room for sleeping the absence of daylight is OK.

I hired a taxi and driver for the day and finally visited the Craft Museum Axel and I didn’t get to visit the last time we were here. There were no tourists, not even Indians so I had the place to myself. But I soon found out why there was no one there – no person in his or her right mind would go to a museum that did not have AC during the middle of the day.

On the suggestion of one of the bride’s uncles who lives in Delhi I told the driver to take me to Akshardham across the Yamuna River. He had told me it was a spectacular new building put together using ancient crafts. That was true. But what he had not told me was that the entire complex was also a religious theme park. More about it in a next post.

And then the rains came…

After our yoga practice the teacher told us that we ought to be doing breathing exercises, yoga and meditation every morning for one and a half hour and that, if we did, we would be in very good shape for the rest of the day. Why wouldn’t I follow such excellent advice?

Unlike the guests of the hotel, we houseboat people had to check out of our rooms/boats by 9 AM since the boats were leaving. Unprepared I through everything in my tiny suitcase and, with some pleasure, evacuated the rather grungy houseboat. If the resort rooms were 5 stars, the houseboat I stayed on was not even a one star accommodation.

To kill the time before departure I went to the spa for a pedicure that was described in the brochure as something too good to be true. It was. The young beautician had a beautiful smile and looked very pretty but that was about it. Still, I have nice shiny red nails again to replace the nail job Tessa and I had done nearly 6 weeks ago in Beverly.

In pairs or groups the guests started to leave, some for Bangalore and other points North and East, some for the airport and some for Holland. A new wedding party came in – this time a Moslem wedding with women wrapped up in black from head to toe with huge hairdos that made their abayas look even more like tents.

The enormous outdoor wedding hall was dismantled by an army of loin-clothed and very dark-skinned men. The structure was the size of one of our drug warehouses, exactly the kind we were looking for.

As soon as the formal parts of the wedding, in the outdoor hall, had been completed the rains came in. Typical for a dweller of a non-monsoon country I thought, ‘wow, weren’t they lucky.’ But the locals told me that the intense heat and humidity of the last few days would have been reduced if it had rained and they would have been happy if the rains had come earlier.

Everything at the resort was prepared for rain, pull down plastic sides to the various wall-less spaces, large umbrellas in stands everywhere with notices that (only) ladies could ask to be accompanied by someone from the staff to hold the umbrella over her head.

And now I am in another grungy and overpriced hotel near the Cochin airport after having said goodbye to the Dutch family who are travelling back via Mumbai and London tomorrow. The Ayurvedic spa that was advertised for the hotel and one of the reasons I picked, it is closed for the day – darn. The one redeeming feature of the hotel was its cook – the Malabar fish curry was to die for.

My movements are limited, as if I were back in Kabul, but for another reason: sudden downpours. And so I sit in the hotel waiting for tomorrow while catching up on my email and work and watching bad TV.


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