Sylvia's Journal

The predicted snow showed up in Kabul, not Herat. Axel took a picture out of our bathroom window (one of the few we can actually open on the mountains side), and concluded these were the biggest snowflakes he had ever seen.

I had another uncomfortable night under the 30 pound blanket and with the tiny sheets. In the morning I told the hotel management that this was the only hotel, over 3 dollar a night, I had ever stayed in where you had to make your own bed. I also requested to not replace my towel everyday which comes also wrapped in plastic with a tiny pink shampoo bottle that shay Ivan and a piece of soap that is wrapped in Chinese characters.

I explained that many hotels in the world are trying to be a little greener by not washing everything every day and I told them about the little cards that one finds in hotel bathrooms that say: towel on the ground means clean towel; towel on the rack means keep it another day.

They thanked me profusely for the feedback and promised they would take care of my requests. But when I returned to the hotel in the afternoon it appeared that only part of the message was received: They had left me my old towel (no new Ivan bottle or soap packet) and they also left me my tiny sheet which I found re-folded and put on top of the Chinese blanket. I got to make my bed by myself again. I gave up.

Our planned after action review got off to a very slow start today. Our guard noticed that with the provincial health chief called to Kabul yersterday afternoon for business everything became a little slack in the office. People showed up late (apparently a meeting by some other US funded agency that pays ‘sitting fees’ was more attractive), then they took about an hour to organize themselves to sit down, and just when everyone was seated someone reminded the group that someone’s nephew had died and they all got up again to offer the family their condolences. And so we didn’t start until about 20 minutes past 11 AM for the 2 hour session.

I used the waiting time to study my Dari lessons with our guard who kept given me the answers for the ‘fill in the blank’ exercises. This is how I was able to do my homework and have it instantly corrected as well. It was a very good use of my tiproductive morning.

While we waited I also learned more about how change comes to this country: very, very slowly. My colleagues sometimes get a little discouraged about how hard it is to change people’s work habits. I used the image of an oil tanker and how you can’t change its direction directly but have to use the trim tab and push it in the direction that seems counter intuitive.

Here the intuitive mode is changing people by punishing them for undesired behavior. The problem is that it doesn’t work because if you punish someone with connections (and everyone has connections) you can expect a phone call from someone more powerful than you who will remind you that you don’t have any power and please undo the punishment. Fear of consequences is what keeps things the same. This is what we, who are tasked to be change agents, are up against. And so I keep thinking ‘trim tab, trim tab, trim tab.’

My boss left at the end of the morning, after an inspiring speech that illustrated something about the kind of leadership we are encouraging: making a connection between the village women, men and children who need medical care and all the conceptual and analytical work, the planning and organizing that sometimes seems so remote from all that.

Sara left with him and both are now safely are back in Kabul. Part of me wanted to go with them but duty keeps me here. The intense Dari immersion continues but it’s not enough for me to follow closely the discussions and understand the reporting out. I couldn’t tell much about the quality of the reports and the underlying reasoning and so I kept quiet. I am always a few sentences behind when someone translates and few people can do this.

In between translations I did some house cleaning of my mailbox, reading stuff saved for later and tried to keep my feet warm by rubbing them under the table. While it is nice and warm outside, on this inside of this marble and stone building it is kind of clammy, a cold that gets in your bones.

Outside spring is not only in the air; new grass is covering the hills with a thin green veil and the gardeners were already busy preparing beds for planting. Still, snow is predicted for tomorrow.

I was asked to close the four day event with a final speech which I needed to improvise on the spot. Luckily, while one sentence was being translated I was able to think up my next sentence.

After lunch the participants in the event from the other provinces were taken on a tour of Herat and I joined the ride. We paid a visit to Ismael Khan’s Jihad museum that I had already visited last October, then by night.

Last time I had labeled it a monument that celebrated war but now I saw it differently as I watched the Afghans intently stare at scenes and speak in muted tones to one another. It is not an abstract thing for them and they recognize names and dates and faces. I kept wanting to ask them, where were you when all this was happening in Herat, but decided not to.

I kept looking at a small replica of a traditional village house where the roof had been blown in and the adult-size dolls were all crumpled under the debris while an infant was sleeping peacefully in its crib – a yaatim, I learned, an orphan. I calculated that the real life model for this baby would now be about 16 years old now. Would he be full of revenge or dead already?

We visited the site of the Jihad House high on the hill with its unwelcoming blue glass mirror windows (no entry) and surveyed what may have been a battle field. Driving back to the main road we passed much war debris: rusted tanks in various states of dismantlement.

At the main road we passed the Five Star Hotel where the US consulate had just settled in when a mortar destroyed part of the 4th and 5th floor. There is still a gaping hole. It is a miracle no one was killed, the mortar hit the staircase, right in between the guest rooms.

We visited two more sites, one a shrine of a famous poet, surrounded by white marble graves and another of a spiritual leader whose name I name I can’t remember. Next to the shrine, in its enclosed yard, is a gravel patch with a narrow marble slap.

Legend has it that if you place your head on the stone, pray, fold your arms, you will roll towards the edges of the flat surface as if you are rolling down a steep hill. Under loud and irreverent laughter several of our group tried this, most without success, until some elder called our party to order and all the doctors became quiet like a bunch of reprimanded boys in class.

They were living right up to the stereotype that western-clad and educated men are breaking with tradition and are doing things that are bad for Afghanistan. This tension runs like a deep fissure through this country.

At the second shrine several male and female beggars showed the really desperate side of this society. I usually don’t give money to beggars but the sight was so sorry I couldn’t stop the impulse. I was immediately reminded that the men were heroine users and would use my 10 Afs to by one fifth of their next hit. This is the dilemma of giving to beggar: you care enough so that you can’t say ‘I don’t care what they do with the money.’

We followed the visiting teams from the five other provinces (Jawzjan, Takhar, Badakhshan, Ghazni and Kabul) on their field trip to see how indicators for health services get collected and analyzed. Sara went with one group to a comprehensive health center (CHC) and I with the other to the District Hospital that is run by the Danish-Afghanistan Committee. Even if I had not known where the funding came from I could have figured it out from the small sketches of Copenhagen’s inner harbor and a rustic scene with a farmer.

Everywhere in the hospital I saw signs of our leadership program that has taken root here: it has led to team work where none existed before, joint and very systematic analyses of challenges and root causes and an abundance of graphs showing improvements over baselines taken months if not years ago.

I am told I am seeing some very successful students from the leadership program who have now become champions themselves. I watched the hospital director behave in ways that I don’t usually see in societies that are as hierarchical and gendered as Afghanistan. The director mostly listened and let his young female staff explain their vision, challenges and the graphs on the walls.

I used the time to sit with the women and ask what number baby they had in their arms – I can have such simple conversations in Dari now – and learned that many were baby number 2 (to women looking like small girls themselves) or baby nr. 9 or 10 to women who looked older than me but probably weren’t. I am now addressed as bibi-jon which is an endearing word for older women (dear granny). None believed I had no grandchildren.

One of these leadership champions, a young doctor working in another district was kidnapped two weeks ago and a ransom of 200.000 dollars demanded by the thugs who took him away from his family (under the guise of a medical emergency). About a year ago I handed this same doctor a poster which he had earned for his extraordinary work. Some people think that government officials are in on the plot – this is what President Karzai has to root out; but in the meantime there is the dilemma – nearby family want to pay of course as non payment may mean instant death. Who can afford this kind of money even in the US? And so family and friends go into debt from which there is no recovery. And payment of course means the crime gets repeated.

After lunch our guard Amidullah took Sara and me on a tour of Herat, first to the cistern that is an old architectural wonder with an enormous domed ceiling that has no support beams or anything like that – just bricks, each row slightly off center but not enough to collapse the dome.

After this we saw the gigantic minarets, 5 are still standing despite the many wars that have ravaged this city over hundreds of years. I couldn’t help consider these spires testimonials to the Y chromosome – they are rather phallic from a distance and still so close up.

While Sara went to see a colleague from her previous work life for dinner I joined a group of about 12 men, several of whom I didn’t know, all doctors, at the house of one of our Kabul staff who happened to attend to his sick mom. I was let in past the curtained off inner room to watch the cooking and preparation of the meal while mom was sitting coughing in a corner, another sick child near her and a bunch of sisters and wives were cooking a spectacular meal.

When the meal was served all the women scurried away, even sick grandma and I was once again with the men. We ate our meals in silence while watching a program about the production of Christmas ornaments somewhere in the US: blond women of a certain age delicately painting US Air force bomber planes on frosted glass balls with tiny paint brushes. When it was dessert time we were watching elephant polo in Nepal. I couldn’t have made it up if I had tried.

Sitting cross legged on thin mattresses for the duration of the meal is a bit of agony for me, especially when hemmed in by both sides. I was very grateful when the meal was over and we could return to the formal guest room with its western furniture. I watched with some jealousy how everyone, old and young, rose from their folded up position with great ease – I had to unfold myself very slowly and trying not to show any wincing. After that more tea, more nuts, more dried fruit and more Dari immersion until I anounced that my hard disk was full and I couolnd’t take in any more Dari. It was one very long Dari lesson today.

We always stay in the same hotel in Herat, a blue-glassed architectural-eyesore high rise that stands out in the neighborhood like a sore thumb. But the staff is nice and stable – each time I arrive here I see the same people and am greeted with more enthusiasm than the previous stay. We are practically old friends now.

The rooms are spacious and comfortable; now with the armoire I can actually hang my clothes. That the armoire is put right in front of the desk which has now become unusable is a minor irritation. It’s not that there weren’t any other places to put it and I try to imagine the reasoning that placed it in the most inconvenient spot.

The one thing that is a major irritation is the sheet arrangement. The bottom sheet of the bed is put on the mattress like a table cloth that is too small, it doesn’t cover the surface and edges of the mattress remain uncovered (who else slept on this I wondered). The sheet is more the size of a crib sheet than the full-size it should be. The rest of the bedding is do-it-yourself: a plastic bag on top of the bed has another sheet of the same size that therefore also cannot be tucked in. And finally there is the 15 kilo Chinese blanket that lies folded next to the plastic-wrapped top sheet at the foot of the bed.

Unlike the sheets, the blanket is made for a king size bed. It size and weight make it impossible to unfold with my one good arm as it is too heavy for my (still) injured and weak-muscled right arm. After trying for a while to spread the 15 kilo of dead weight over a slithering piece of cloth I gave up and slept in a jumble of mostly blanket and a little bit of sheet that’s always in the wrong place.

The label on the blanket says ‘handwash in warm water only’ and a stern warning to not dry clean. Given its dry weight I cannot imagine a human being hand washing this behemoth blanket (wringing not allowed luckily) and so I assume this blanket doesn’t get washed very much (this only bothers me the first night).

The pillow is another issue, a decorative affair with little things sewn around the edges that look like the ears on Halloween animal outfits. It too has only a sliver of a sheet wrapped around it by way of pillow case but ‘case’ is the wrong word as there is no encasing. Would they wash the decorative case after each use? I hate to ask because I can sort of predict the answer.

All of this is of course only a problem on the first night. After that I adapt and prove once more that we humans are, among many other things, endlessly adaptable and able to lower our standards if there are no obvious and immediate other options. It’s called accommodation, and probably a good thing.

We left early for the airport, the UNAMA part of the airport, a separate small building that has its own entrance (please unload your weapons in this box), its own fleet of planes and its own tiny business center and canteen. If it was a commercial enterprise it would be broke by now but the Canadians and Japanese are keeping the fleet in the air and we help a bit by paying insanely high airfares, for extra safety and reliability.

Security at the airport was ratcheted up to a level I had not seen before. For the first time our car was not allowed to enter the airport grounds and Sara and I walk the distance that we are usually driven. We didn’t mind because we don’t get much of a chance to walk. We passed the women’s checkpoint where bored female employees watched a grainy TV screen, drinking tea and chatting.

They gave us a cursory pat down and resumed their talking. As we discovered later all this extra security was because the Afghan president was flying someplace (this also caused a three hour delay in our departure but we didn’t know that at the time).

We passed through the parking lot C that, as Sara noticed, doesn’t have any signs to say it is C. People just know, just as people know that behind it is parking lot B, also without signage. We walked through the small building with snack shops and coffee places (not like Starbucks, this is Nescafe land, there is no critical mass of demanding coffee drinkers here). Finally our office guard was blocked from further accompanying us and we were on our own until my boss joined us some time later.

We didn’t arrive in Herat until 2 PM even though the flight is barely 2 hours and we started our journey at 7:30 AM.

Sara may have expected people with guns trying to ambush us on the airport road (such things sometimes happen as Steve had told her not realizing that this kind of information makes people nervous). Instead we watched an entire planeload of new army recruits empty out of the airport – mostly young boys walking three abreast with nervous smiles on their facing. Each three-some was holding hands, while marching someplace in a slightly disorderly way as only new recruits can get away with, under the stern gaze of their trainers. It would have been cute if it wasn’t for the fact that they were about to be turned into men-in-uniforms-with-guns.

Our guard, who had flown ahead of us, waited for us at the airport and took us to the provincial health office, built by the Italian PRT (=military) and opened in October 2009 when I came here first.
This is my third visit to Herat since I arrived in Afghanistan at the end of September. My Dari lessons are paying off; I can follow a lot more than 2 months ago although I am still far away from participating in Dari. I am frantically thumbed through my Dari-English dictionary to find words (or rather sounds) that I heard repeatedly. That is how I discovered that ‘to choose’ in Dari is, literally, to make happy. Huh?

At the hotel I noticed that the rooms are now equipped with an armoire, a piece of furniture that had been missing on my previous trips – everything was hung on an elongated hat rack. Now I have hangers. They clearly do listen to their customers.

I thawed my frozen feet in the tiny bath tub and then watched Bollywood soap operas until dinner time. They are love dramas and some play out in halls that look like the Afghan wedding halls. Now I understand where the Afghan wedding hall fad comes from. The funny thing is that the Indian wedding hall is full of women and men together, the women rather exposed in comparison to their Afghan sisters (arms, midriff, ankles, neck, cleavage)