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Abundance

I don’t use Facebook much these days. I learned about all the devious ways that people with bad intentions ingratiate themselves with us first, so we share their posts and then the algorithms kick in. No more sharing or liking posts I don’t know the provenance of. I now mostly use FB to tell people where I am headed next in case someone I know is there too.

Such was the case during our South Africa trip. I was alerted by the daughter of good friends that her parents were in their South African home near Cape Town. A short side trip to Cape Town was already in our plans, after I finished my work, and this was even better. 

We were picked up at the airport and taken on a tour. First to a lovely restaurant built around trees with a wonderful view of pristine beaches and the ocean with it’s cold water coming all the way from the Antarctica.  We then drove the famous Chapman’s Peak road going north along the water’s edge and watching the Fynbos in all of its spring glory. At a pull-out overlooking HoutBay the second bottle of wine was brought out and we sipped a pink bubbly watching the bay and listening to stories about why it was called that way, and about Fynbos and about all sorts of other fascinating things to know about this part of the world.

Our friends know much about the history, fauna and flora of the Cape area which added a lot to the experience of driving northeast from Cape Town. We traversed the mountains through a tunnel and thought about the people with their covered wagons looking for a way over. The descent in the valley was our first peak at the ubiquitous vineyards, planted all these hundreds of years ago by people with a vision and a great tolerance for risk. Many of them my people (with Dutch DNA) as one of my colleagues said – stubborn like the Dutch, God-fearing and thumbing their noses at officialdom. 

We spent three days at our friends’ lovely house they built on the side of a hill overlooking, far in the distance, the vibrant green of vineyards in spring and the scraggly mountains behind and in front of them – giving them two amazing views a day of the sun coming up over and then setting behind the mountains in a burst of pink, rose, mauve, orange, and purple sunrises and sunsets.

And then there were always the best wines, which they know a lot about and are rather picky about. A cellar full of bottles for everyday and special occasions, a swimming pool to cool off in at the end of a warm and dusty day. Again, with wine: a glass of cool rosé, a rosé pool party, with a small drone taking pictures of us in our bliss.We are heading home for Thanksgiving in a day, spending our last night on the continent in a hipster Cape Town hotel. There is much to be grateful about.

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Travel for two

The ideas I read about in the plane to South Africa worked themselves nicely into a series of just-in-time agendas that came together, as I had asked the universe to do. We talked, we simulated, we extracted lessons during a variety of exercises that one can never do at work. I got to know people better, and they me; there is more trust now, which helps. People are more willing to make a trust fall alongside me.

While I was at work Axel explored Jo’burg, the art scene, musea and places to eat and have coffee. He had to figure out the transportation system and was warned many times (don’t go there by bus, don’t walk here, to get too close to the train station in an Uber, etc.). We are grateful that, back home, we are living in a place that does not require gates, razor wire, double locks, and so many warnings about safety.  

With Christmas coming up (preceded by Black Friday, successfully copied here), people need lots of money. We got scammed at the ATM which allowed the scammer to buy something at Gadgets for 700 USD, probably a drone. Luckily my bank in the US is reimbursing me for the loss. Bad luck for me (at least at the moment, being scammed is a very unpleasant experience as I felt so stupid) and good luck for the guy who is now bringing back something amazing to his family. Although grateful that, in the end, the loss is not mine. When I came for my new bank card, the ATM folks at the bank told me that they were amazed this was only the first time for me, as they know about my travels (which I call in before each trip to alert them). 

Coming home to our apartment at the end of the day, Axel directed us to yet another great restaurant and selected our wine. I am used to come to my hotel room tired and hungry and either ordering room service or sit by myself in a nearby restaurant, and maybe ordering one glass of wine. This was so much better. I think I can get used to hin traveling with me, at least to places like South Africa.

Journeys

This is probably the last trip of the year, unless I decide to accompany Sita and Axel to Paris early December for a meeting of the Valueweb that both are members of. Or I go to Holland to visit my Irish twin brother who has been fighting multiple staph infections in a hospital in Holland. Or I go to India to visit my team in Gujarat to play and work a little, and keep pushing the string that is our proposal for working with the department of urban development in UP.  All sorts of possibilities!

Yesterday (today? Last night?) we arrived in Jo’burg after the now familiar long flight from Atlanta. Aside from a few minor zigzags halfway through the trip, smack in the middle of the vast Atlantic ocean due to string headwinds, the flight was smooth. I had requested an upgrade to B-class but didn’t get it and so I folded myself in Delta Comfort seat 33D, next to a nice young man from Virginia who sets up call centers in South Africa (yes, he had seen ‘Outsource’). We chatted for a couple of hundred miles and then he fell asleep and I did not.

Axel sat 6 rows behind me on the other side of the plane and lucked out – an empty seat between him and a young man by the window who slept the whole way huddled over his tray table.

I read one book and then listened to another by the same author who I had just gotten to know trough a webinar on Thursday. Her approach (Cy Wakeman’s reality-based leadership), smashed a good part of my collection of taken-for-granted management and leadership beliefs. I loved her challenges to conventional wisdom, especially since they are backed up by research and resonated with my experiences, especially my recent facilitation experience in South Africa. It was a timely discovery as my proposed design got kind of thrown out the window and I found myself traveling to South Africa with empty hands/head as to what I was going to do. 

I am slated to facilitate 5 retreats this week, three half day retreats and two whole days. The first one is on Monday and will be more of a design conversation as there is no agenda – only a list of topics. Searching for some way to turn the list of topics into a coherent agenda, the universe came to my rescue and put Cy Wakeman on my path. I will propose her ideas and see where we go from there. It’s a journey. I may propose a road trip as the central metaphor for all of the retreats this week.

We landed in summer (85F), 7 hours ahead of the wintry cold day of departure. In the olden days this would have been a change of enormous proportions (imagine a 6 week voyage over stormy seas and no land in sight for weeks on end). But now it’s a cinch and we take it all in stride. It’s an important perspective to hold as we will be talking a lot about change this week (but not about change management, as that is one of the concepts that I have now jettisoned).

We are lodged in a low rise apartment complex that is around the corner of a number of restaurants, their terraces filled with people enjoying wine and good food. Axel is in heaven: good wine and a nice steak with Malagasy pepper sauce. I was also in heaven with a well prepared steak tartare and a nice glass of South African Sauvignon blanc, something we rarely get in the US where New Zealand dominates that Sauvignon. Although very tired (and alcohol not usually a good idea), we ordered the most expensive bottle of red wine (US$20), thinking we would each have a glass and then take the bottle home.  We ended up drinking the whole thing, managed to walk in a straight line to our apartment, just meters away.  And then I collapsed, to wake up in the middle of the night and write.

A 30-hour day

During the 7 hour (day) flight to Boston I passed the time doing one electronic jigsaw puzzle with 1024 pieces. It takes me about 8 hours to do such a puzzle. I can do the puzzle while also watching things on the screen in front of me if the audio is more compelling than the visuals. 

I stopped watching movies as they are either violent or stupid. Of course, I cannot entirely escape the violence as it is flickering on countless screens within my field of vision. I watch documentaries, about anything. 

I had four to choose from and watched them all: one about blockchains and how they make those in control of money flows nervous, but also how UNICEF and WFP are using blockchains to help refugees and displaced persons. I still don’t really understand the whole idea of blockchains and crypto currencies but was happy to see examples of how they are being used for good. Then I watched a documentary about whiskey (‘Scotch’). I learned that there are 50 year old whiskeys sold in handblown bottles for 10,000 pounds or more. It must be the Crazy Rich Asians that buy these things. I thought paying 80 dollars for a bottle of whiskey at the Edinburgh airport tax free shop was ridiculous.

Then I watched a wonderful documentary about the late Toni Morrison which made me want to read all of her books; and finally, the best of all the documentaries (and one I could give full attention to because my puzzle was done), was about Luciano Pavarotti.

With operas in my head I landed in Boston. Axel picked me up and we headed to the new Whole Foods Market in Beverly. The contrast with Niger was rather stark: abundance versus the basics – the check-out bill was too. Back home it was Axel who took a nap while I unpacked and did the laundry.

The Pavarotti music (La Boheme) still lodged in my brain, my eye was directed to an ad for a concert that same very night (and only that night) in Newburyport with a professional vocal ensemble (Skylark) that would be performing Rachmaninoff’s Vespers. October 25 thus became a very long day, as we went to this extraordinary performance. I wouldn’t have missed it for the world. 

Trustfall

Exactly at 9PM I was picked up by the ICRC driver. I congratulated him on his punctuality. Going to the airport, in many developing countries, is a bit of a trust fall; in this case in particular since the next Air France flight wouldn’t be until 4 days later.

As we drove to the airport I noticed military everywhere. It was true that we drove by kilometers of barracks, but still, the police and military ought to have been behind the serpentine wired walls, not in front. The driver commented that it was possible that the president was either on his way into town from the airport or out of town to the airport. That worried me a bit.

“What happens when the president is on the road, and how would you know he is coming or going your way?” I asked. “We never know, you just find out when it happens. It’s simply bad timing. Everyone is stopped, whether in a car, on a bike, by foot. Even ambulances are stopped,” said the driver. “It can be a long as an hour wait.” That made me a bit nervous. I watched the police and military intently to see if the president was approaching. He obviously was not, because they did not look very alert, chatting with each other, checking their phones. I could relax.

I made the flight and the driver hurried back home as soon as I had been deposited.

Finishing up

We had a long day full of heated discussions about what quality of services means in the context of the two rehab centers. We divided the group in 3: one group had to list what quality looks like from the client’s perspective, another from the provider perspective and the third group from a management perspective. The last two were easy since we had both managers and providers in the room. The first one was more difficult, to put oneself in the shoes of someone who needs the service but may not be educated as to what to expect. Imagine someone who had her leg amputated after having been given an injected with a dirty needle, then an untreated infection, then gangrene leading to the only remaining response to save her life: an amputation. Imagine the trauma of all that, and then to travel 600 kilometers in public transport (what if you have to pee?) arrive at the entrance of a crowded hospital with no indications of where to go and who to address. It would be traumatizing for a man, but even more so for a woman. 

After the lists were completed each group moved over to one of the others and indicated with a (+) or (-) sign whether the listed aspects of quality were being honored/present or not. Because of time constraints (we have very slow and soft starts every day) we could not have another round; good enough for now. 

The review of the lists and the plusses and minuses was heated, especially the minuses but surfaced some important issues. The culture card was played frequently, it’s a card that implies that one has very little control over things. This is true of course, there is so much here that people have no influence over whatsoever; interestingly, the one thing they do have control over, their attitudes and mentality, is something they seem reluctant to do- and this was one of the things that got in the way of quality.

The habits of talking over each other is common in meetings. By setting norms at the beginning there is always the hope that these will impose order. But they never do, unless a higher authority is created. Sometimes they look at me, as the higher authority, to maintain the rules but I always decline. I usually give a little speech about everyone being responsible. But that never works either. In Francophone West Africa a Village Chief is often proposed. I usually push back against that because it complicates my work when have to report to a Village Chief who knows nothing about process facilitation and my methodology. But this time I decided to go along. After a while I got the hang of asking permission to the chief to speak, and I realize we can meld two approaches together. He was, more or less, able to handle the competing voices when we chanced on a hot topic. Most of the time I remembered to ask his permission (like ‘OK, can we move on now?’), and when I forgot he was forgiving, we exchanged smiles. It costs me nothing and it honors a tradition.

At the very end, an actual higher authority (the Deputy General Director of the hospital, AKA Monsieur le DGA) came in to listen to the results of our meeting. But our Village Chief had disappeared. This was a problem as he was the obvious person to welcome the DGA, everyone said so; second in line was the (real) chief of the rehab center. But he had left the room as well to look for the Village Chief and now both were gone. 

We hadn’t discussed the process of the formal closing, after all the hard work of structuring processes I forgot to pay attention to this last process – a process probably no one considered a process. I asked who welcomes, who introduces, who closes, etc. no one had thought about it and so it was rather disjointed, especially with the two Chiefs gone. In the end it all worked out although it was not the exciting and seamless culmination of the week’s work to the DGA with the presentation of the teams’ commitments. The food also came half an hour late, so the celebratory dinner was more like a feeding frenzy with everyone helping himself and herself to as much as the food as possible. And it felt hardly celebratory. By the time I got to the feeding station most of the food had gone – I got two brochettes and a Madeleine  cookie. I missed the little pizzas and some other ‘mouth teasers,’ that were piled high on people’s plates, then covered with a napkin to take home. This is about living in a place of scarcity – get what you can get before it is gone; even though all the people in the room have a salary that can sustain them. It wasn’t a leadership course so I kept my observations to myself.

Possibilities

The day before I left Niamey we visited an old friend who is the President of the Niger Special Olympics committee. He is one of the great promoters of sport for people with disabilities. He is very credible in that role because he has won various championships in his wheelchair. He was part of a senior leadership program that ICRC organized with MSH several years ago. 

As an activist for the rights of people with disabilities, not just in sports, but also when they travel on an airline he makes a stink when such rights are not honored. On his way to one of our workshops in Addis he called out Ethiopian Airlines– which, although committed on paper to make accommodations for travelers, in reality he was left to his own devices. Unlike the many people for whom wheelchairs are lined up in the jetway, he cannot walk at all. We wrote an angry letter to the airline. He assured me that since then, that airline has facilitated his travel.

His office is at the large sport complex where Nigeriens of all ages and abilities are busy with all sorts of sports: there are the able-bodied people who walk or run around the complex for their constitutional, small kids in a martial arts class, pick-up basketball games and more. Our friend led us to a place under the bleachers where a volleyball game was going on, played by people who have lower limbs that can’t hold them up. They play the game seated, on the hard and uneven ground. We watched for a long time, it was fascinating to see them play, with such joy and abandon. It was another example that everything is possible – you just have to be creative. The uneven ground does sometimes create holes in their pants, but an effort is underway to have a padded playing field.

The Special Olympics community is hard at work to get young kids with disabilities to engage in sports, expanding the choices. They know that sports has a hugely positive impact on their lives. Unfortunately the stigma is considerable and many parents don’t even know what is possible, assuming that having a disability is a life sentence. 

Magic

Yesterday morning I had the extraordinary experience of sitting in a meeting in Ghaziabad (in Uttar Pradesh) while also sitting in my hotel room in Niamey. A century ago this would have been considered magic, or at least impossible. But thanks to WhatsApp it was possible.

My Indian colleagues are on an exploratory mission, while visiting their family in Uttar Pradesh for Diwali. The exploration is about better understanding what the municipalities are struggling with so that we can finetune our proposed design to the Department of Urban Development. I am very grateful for my Indian team mates – they find out things I could not possibly have learned from a distance. It’s humbling to realize how little I know about what is going on nearly halfway around the world. 

I learned from our graphic designer member of the team that the Dutch are very involved in waste removal and clean water in Uttar Pradesh – he was scribing a meeting and made a fabulous graphic about it. Of course, the Dutch would be involved in waste and water management, coming from a country that is partially below sea level. It has led to extraordinary creativity and a very specialized expertise.

We still don’t have the contract in India and it may not come anytime soon as our proposal has been winding its way through the bureaucratic maze while we are busy learning directly from stakeholders about the complexity of the urban renewal work – it is not just about aligning the departments within the municipal government, but also aligning and mobilizing the multiple actors outside the municipal confines 

So far, our design is just focusing on the internal alignment, which we assumed is a start (which will be confirmed or disconfirmed by my team mates once the interviews are completed). Our initial design is based on the premise that there is much collective learning that needs to be engineered, between departments in one municipality and between municipalities to learn from each other (among other things on how to deal with all these outside forces, especially the ones that create troubles for them). We’ll see what happens, it has been a wonderful experience so far and the relationship with my Indian team mates is priceless, no matter what the final outcome will be. Win or lose, there will not be failure.

Beasties

Today we concluded the conversation about the activities (in the plans) of the teams of Niamey and Zinder. They indicated what they had been able to accomplish and the things they had not been able to do or finish, and why. And what was the impact (the successes and failures) had on the improvement of the efficiency and effectiveness of the services they provide. And finally they pulled out what they could learn from all of these experiences. As it turned out one of the teams had come to realize that all the things they had not completed where entirely within their ‘sphere of control;’ it was their very behavior that got in the way. That led to an animated discussion with everyone, in the end, agreeing that they were the only people who could turn things around, not needing any extra resources (or if so, very little), not even extra time. It’s that simple.

Of course, words come easy; people know exactly the right words to use (team spirit, listening to each other, be responsible), but I know that action is a little more complicated, especially when confronting people is simple not part of this culture (easy for me to say, as a Dutch person, where confrontation is common and not automatically a threat to friendship or work relationships. I think here the things are more complicated.

We ended the day with an exercise that required printing out two pages – the things that would be so easy for me back home, but here not so. I walked back to the center in 35 degree heat to print the pages, but the person was locked out of his computer – there was no alternative other than walking back and transcribe the necessary information from my computer, by hand; the IT man said he could help out and we walked back to the center, back in the heat, and now we were successful and arrived, papers in hand, just when the session was about to start, with 2 minutes to spare, ooooff (wiping brow). 

I had hoped to go for a cooling swim after all that walking in 33 degree heat but the pool was ‘sous traitement.’ To kill all the little beasties in the pool, the guard explained me. I asked when the treatment was done and learned it takes 72 hours – some beasties! It may explain the slight green tinge of the water and the cloudiness when I swam on Saturday.

onoOf the 72 hours only 24 are done so it looks like I had my one and only swim the day I arrived. I stayed for a while by the pool, sweating and looking longingly at the water, but then remembered it was full of hard to kill beasties; I had a beer to cool me off and then ordered my dinner and went upstairs to change out of my bathing suit. I went down for my habitual dinner of brochettes on the unattractive terrace, by myself, in the unrelenting heat, even at 6PM. This time I was armed with Swiss bug spray, complements of ICRC, to deal with the more visible beasties swarming around me. I had my brochettes with veggies giving myself a break from frites.

Jiggling

We had our first day of easing into the pace of work here – courtesy visits to the ones in charge and getting the team together to discuss what they want from our visit. We integrated their ideas with ours and will provide them with an agenda tomorrow that we will hold lightly to respond to needs that surface.

We started them on conversations with each other about what they have been able to accomplish in this difficult work context and what they are struggling with. I watched to learn something about the team dynamics and noticed they are not listening to each other. I had already learned about this through our ICRC colleague, but watched it close up today.

None of the rooms that we had hoped to have were available. It amazes me the things we take for granted, like meeting in a nice place with chairs for everyone. Not here, the only place available was the windowless stockroom with hardly any room to maneuver and not enough stools (forget about chairs) to accommodate everyone.

Later we met in the PT exercise room after having dragged the benches from the waiting room and an odd assortment of stools and chairs pulled from all over the rehab center. It’s a tile clad room and with everyone talking loudly over each other I had a hard time hearing everyone. I’ve got to have that hearing exam when I get back, as my hearing is definitely not what it used to be

At the end of the day, just before the sun disappeared behind the river we arrived at the beautiful terrace of the Grand Hotel. It’s the place to watch the sun set and enjoy beer, brochettes and frites (again). Why the architects who designed our hotel (also on the river) did not think a terrace overlooking the river would be a major competitive advantage is something that escapes me. The Grand Hotel, even though it’s apparently not a place one would want to spent the night, fills its enormous terrace with people who stay after the sun has disappeared to eat and drink. Our hotel has an ill positioned, unattractive and unused terrace that looks in the wrong direction. And even if it had been positioned in the right direction, the view would be obstructed by barbed wire, military folks and a kludged together pizzeria and barbecue place. There aren’t even tables and chairs for guests, unless you stand there for a while and they drag out one table with one chair for you.

We were joined by our colleague’s Flemish husband and their 9 year old daughter who speaks 5 languages. She is a citizen of the world if I ever knew one, at ease in cultures as different from each other as Sudan, Bolivia, (Flemish) Belgium, Catalonia and now Niger, all in her nine short years.

We sat on the same terrace where I sat 32 years ago in my second year at MSH, 1987. At that time we drank the conjoncture, (Niger) beer, watched thousands of bats fly out for their nightly feeding frenzy, and followed the camels and cars traversing the bridge to return home. Tonight, there was no conjoncture beer, much fewer bats (and many more mosquitos as a result), no camels and lots of cars. Things have changed a lot and some things not for the better.

I learned that the last brewery was taxed out of existence, not just putting all its workers out on the street but also putting the hundreds of little eating places where people would go for cheap beer and brochettes out of business as the imported beer is now out of reach of the people who frequent those places. It seems like another infuriating example of religious fanaticism with a very short horizon – maybe something on our horizon if our president has to step down?

Back at the hotel I could not get my room key out of the lock. I called the reception who sent a man up. As soon as he arrived the key came out. I quickly put it back in because I didn’t want to let him off the hook so easily. And indeed, he was not able to get it out. He told me, ‘just a moment,’ and went back down. I assumed he went to get something like graphite, but no, he came back with a foot long insecticide spray can. If he had intended to spray into the lock, he could not since it was occupied by the key we couldn’t get out. So he sprayed around the key, as if it was a lubricant. Of course it didn’t solve the problem, only added bug spray to the other fragrances wafting into my room from the tired and mildewed carpets in the hallway. At least I won’t have bugs in my room lock tonight, that’s comforting to know. Eventually the key came out but neither one of us knew the magic formula. I am pretty sure it wasn’t the bug spray. Just a lucky jiggle.


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