Sylvia's Journal

Everything is covered with a layer of 8 inches of snow. The world is beautiful, even though the skies are grey. There is a particular calm after a snowstorm that I love.

Yesterday was a day of completion, or semi–completion. I have completed two of the four sets of teaching notes for our leadership program. The Ghana team is setting out on its coaching rounds and will sound prepare for workshop two. Now we are ready to support them; a cascade down of teams helping each other succeed. It is a nice formula and I think it works.

In the afternoon I logged on to an OBTS Webinar where Peter Vaill and David Fearon talked about their teacher-student relationship some thirty years ago. It was a conversation about the profession in that time of history, when experiential learning in the classroom, especially the academic classroom was looked down on with great disdain and seen as a waste of one’s tuition money (they are laughing and playin in the classroom, can you imagine?! The job of the professor was to lecture and dispense wisdom, not engage with the students in learning, godforbid. We have come a long way and the community of people who teach that way is growing in leaps and bounds. The set up of a Webinar is fairly passive, as presenters mostly talk and participants mostly listen and occasionally post a question on a common chat board. The neat thing is that you can chat with individuals in the audience, wherever they sit. I discovered someone I had not seen for a long time and we chatted while the Profs were speaking without anyone noticing. You can also occasionally answer an email, or all the time if you find the lecture boring, which it wasn’t. I love these periodic webinars. I love seeing who is listening alongside with me and it does make me think in bigger ways. Next week I will be working with professors in Arusha about just this kind of stuff.

After the webinar I realized that a snow storm was building up outside and an email alerted me to its severity when our HR director alerted us all that MSH was closing its doors in the middle of the day. I remembered the commute from hell in December. I was glad my departure for Tanzania was postponed form Friday to Saturday. I would probably have been stranded at Logan.

I never made it outdoors, not even to pick up the newspaper. While I spent the day sittiing in front of my computer, Sita spent the day making bread. She made one after another in the bread machine that had been sitting unused and unobserved in a cabinet. She started with plain Dutch brown whole wheat bread and then got bolder, under protest from Jim. Each loaf of bread came out nicer than the previous one. The last loaf was made with rosemary, thyme, and orange juice I believe. Of course we had to try each new loaf as it emerged hot from the machine. Now we have a plastic bag full of half eaten loaves. It looks a little bit like the bags we carried as children, when we went to see the deer, donkeys and ducks in our local petting zoo in Groenendaal.

We had a Dutch dinner (andijvie stampot) which is a perfect comfort food to eat during a snowstorm. It consists of mashed potatoes, cut up curly leaf lettuce and crisped bacon. The best part n the making of this dish is the pouring of the hot bacn fat over the mashed potatoes and lettuce. Not a low cal meal, there is also sausage that goes with it, at least in our American interpretation. Jim likes havng multipe types of meat in his meal; sausage and bacon.This is good for people who bike all the time, but not necessarily for couch potatoes, which some in this household have become; more about this later.

We had hoped to watch the new Dutch movie that my brother Willem sent me (Alles is Liefde) but our equipment won’t take a Pal DVD so that requires some investigation. Instead we called Tessa and put her on the speaker phone. The phone conversation turned into a graphic design consultation session with the other graphic designers in the room, while Jim and I eventually peeled off, doing dishes (Jim) and packing (me)

Later in the evening we all settled in front of our tiny TV. Sita practically lives on the coach with her workspace on her knee. She watches movies while she builds websites and earns money. She has always been able to combine work and pleasure, smart girl she is. Jim works on sharpening his Sudoku skills, also on a computer, also watching a movie. Sita and Jim watch movies that are much too violent for my liking. She has a high tolerance for awful scenes. I already knew this when she was 10 and reading R.L. Stine horror books from the library, where we parked her after school until mom got home. It is only later that we understood this to be her revenge for this daily affront. More revenge came on her 11^th birthday party. She insisted on watching some god-awful Freddie the something movie and we of course didn’t want too upset our little princess, especially not on her birthday. Sita and one brave little girl watched the entire movie in her bedroom, while all the other invitees emerged one by one from her room, seeking safety and comfort from me, scared out of their minds and shivering in their thin cotton nighties. As a big mother hen I watched over them until the movie was over and they could resume their sleepover part.

Later in the evening we all watched Tom Hanks in the Money Pit, a film we last saw some 20 years ago when we were brand-new homeowners and could relate to the money pit idea on a gut level. It was still very funny, maybe even funnier, after all these years. It was probably also educational for Sita and Jim, as aspiring homeowners.

Now I need to go back to my packing and checking things of my to do list. There is nothing like going on a trip to make progress on long to-do lists.

Yesterday was a marathon workday. Some things have to be done by Saturday; my departure on that day for Tanzania is like a hard stop. I have been able to stretch some assignments onwards from last fall, but this is it. I usually reserve Mondays and Fridays for thinking and writing work which I need to do undisturbed on my own. Staying home saves me the two hours of commuting time. These then get added to the workday making these days usually long, now that the doctors’ appointments and PT sessions are done with.

The only interruption yesterday was for what Axel calls the sanitation brigade. The brigade, which usually consists of Axel with neighbor Ted as his adjutant, is called into action when it rains cats and dogs, especially when the ground is frozen and there is still snow on the ground. That is when we have to be on alert for groundwater flowing into the septic system overflow tanks. This is a larger systemic issue brought on by the cutting up of old and large estates which used to have elaborate drainage pipes. Some of these have been cut or broken over the years as new houses have sprung up and installed mammoth septic systems. We are talking once more with an engineer to figure a way out of this predicament in ways that does not require building a new septic system. If you live on a piece of ledge the options are limited and expensive. But the constant dread of the system backing up into our cellars is not fun either.

I am a new member of the brigade. I always considered it manly business (try prying away one of the manhole covers) requiring brute force and engineering ingenuity. But yesterday morning the cats and dogs came down relentlessly and Axel was sound asleep. I donned my 99 cents poncho, which looks a bit like a brightly colored (yellow) whole body condom and armed with a shovel set to work to displace the manhole cover to peek inside the tanks. I could not do it and so I did get back into the house to wake Axel up. He saw me standing, dripping wet, in the bedroom in my yellow condom outfit, asking for help with some urgency in my voice. Later, at dinner, he compared my apparition in his semi-sleep state to Woody Allen in the film Everything You Always Wanted to Know About Sex But Were Afraid to Ask (1972), when the sperm get ready for action in their white outfits and Woody wonders what happens when he lands on the floor. Hmmm, I did wonder about the comparison, but it seems that he too believes there is something about manly business in all this as well.

This morning in Quaker Meeting someone stood up and talked about the opportunity that sitting in silence offered for wonder. Wonder about the amazing workings of our body that happen without requiring any conscious attention or action from our side. Over the last 7 months we have been very tuned in to the wonder of our bodies; bones and ribs growing back together, vertebrae re-aligning (with some help) and nerves re-generating (with no help other than a reduction in alcohol consumption). Someone else spoke about her father who made a toast, on his 95^th birthday, to his heart and thanked it for its long and faithful service. And we wondered, in awed silence, about all these things that happen on their own without our interference.

We have an Amaryllis growing on our counter. The flower bud is about to pop (it will pop the day I leave for my next trip and will be done flowering the day I come back I am afraid – this is what happened to the Paper Whites and the Hyacinth). This Amaryllis last flowered about one year ago. I left it in the pot and cut the stalk back. For months it kept producing leaves. Last June I finally took it out of the pot with the intent to bury it in the ground and leave it there till fall. And then I forgot about it; and then things happened.

For months it sat outside by the front door. It got kicked aside when the ramp was built, then picked up and moved around from one place to another, like an orphan nobody wanted. It sat in the rain and then in the scorching heat. When the ramp was taken down I noticed it again but left it outside for a few more months. It was too late for planting it outside and too early for an indoor pot. In October I took it inside. I wondered whether there was any life left inside it. It looked terrible. I left it on the radiator to dry out from the fall rains. Late November, not knowing what else to do with it I planted it on pebbles that I kept wet. Nothing happened for months although it did produce a few roots but no other action was visible from the top. And so we all forgot about it again. And then, suddenly, about 4 weeks ago something light green appeared at the top in between the brown papery layers. Now, one firm healthy looking stalk is sticking out of the bulb with a fat flower bud on top. Another bud is wriggling itself into the world, one foot and a half behind the other. It is a source of great wonder.

The thought, planted in Meeting and fed by this Amaryllis miracle is a reminder of sorts; to look out for wonder(s).

Martin Imm and I were going to do some more wondering, in the skies over Essex County in the afternoon. Martin has a pilot’s license, although not current; still, he fits in the category of potential flying partners. We made these plans while the sky was blue and the winds fair. By the time Quaker Meeting for Business was over the skies had changed to a more ominous color and the winds had picked up. We canceled the trip and I am back to looking in wonderment at my Amaryllis, hoping with all my heart that the bud will burst open before I leave.

I discovered how easy it is to get a lot of hits on your blog site – if that is what you want. The entry from January 1, which was named after a famous playboy and had a picture with his name embedded, kept getting hit all the time, with a record number of entries and new visits every day. It shows the power of the search engine. Apparently, anyone googling this gentleman who-shall-no-longer-be-named was led to my blog. I have removed all references to monsieur and I hope that with this, the hits will stop and I will discover the real size of my faithful readership.

I woke up to a fiery pink and orange sky this morning. The landscape outside is bleak and uninviting despite the bright colors of the morning sky. Looking out onto the yard between us and the Hoopers there is a strange design in the remaining snow. It looks like one of those mysterious patterns in cornfields or forests that you sometimes see in documentaries that prove that not everything can be explained by science. Our pattern is random, circular and frantic. From the second floor it looks like the drawing of a child that has just learned how to hold a pencil and knows about circles and lines. The pattern is probably made by moles or voles running in tunnels underneath the snow. The paw prints of a fox would explain the franticness. It is actually quite beautiful. The artists in this family are enthralled with it; the ones who believe in plots and conspiracies even more so. It does make us wonder, however, if the presence of these small rodents also means there are grubs for them to eat in this lawn that was newly seeded last summer at some expense. Why else would they be here now?

Yesterday was the 14^th and signaled the 7^th month post-crash. It seemed a fitting day to shed yet another doctor. I bicycled to the doctor’s office to see my ankle orthopedist. He gave my foot a last check up, made some remarks about the remaining swelling and tendon pains (normal, good pains) and let me go. No follow up appointment required. Now all that is left is the massage therapist, who I don’t ever want to let go. There is of course still the issue of the ‘debris’ in the right breast. The report from the ultrasound and mammogram, done last month, indicate ‘not cancerous,’ which is what I had expected, but a relief nevertheless (although I don’t understand how they know from looking). However, the nurse practitioner wants to watch things closely so she asked me to schedule another mammogram and ultrasound in a couple of months. This turned out to be a bit more complicated to organize than I had thought for the simple reason that my two breasts have different diagnostic codes for the referral. My insurance company is OK with re-examining the right one sooner but the left one has to wait until after April 9, when it has been one year since the previous (routine and bilateral) mammogram. The breast doctor wants to see both side by side. It took a couple of hours of phone calls and inquiries to get the green light from Blue Cross to admit both breasts into the X-ray suite.

The girls celebrated Valentine’s Day by going out for dinner, Sita and Jim close by and Tessa and Steve in distant London (ON). Axel and I had a simple dinner in front of the fire, watching Hercule Poirot. The Valentine part of the meal was a ‘mousse au chocolat’ that was as rich as mousse can be, including whipped espresso cream on the top. Life is good!